When I watched the video of you performing on the Today Show recently, I’ll admit, my initial reaction wasn’t kind. I judged. I judged harshly.
I thought there was a lesson in quality to be explored. I’m an expert in websites, in e-commerce, in online business, NOT in music. Did I like the song? Sorry, no, so I thought I could make all kinds of comparisons between your performance and a website that isn’t quite hitting the mark.
I’m embarrassed to admit I got swept up into the ridicule. I was just as unkind as some of the other people who have made comments. I just wasn’t public with mine.
I was wrong and I’m sorry.
Instead of adding to the negativity, I want to tell you that I’m virtually high five-ing you so hard right now!
You put yourself out there and no matter what critics say, that’s something to be proud of. I’m reminded of the Roosevelt quote that has become infamous thanks to Brene Brown:
“It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly.”
You’re in the arena and for that, I have serious respect for you.
You’ve had your ass handed to you since your performance. I know how painful it can feel to be publicly judged and yet, there I went, down the slippery slope of judgment. Again, I’m sorry.
I think failure can feel devastating at the moment but it’s relative. If you keep going, keep putting yourself out there, it’s just part of the journey. I don’t even want to say that it’s not a failure because that implies failure is bad and I think failure can be a gift to embrace.
I frequently hear from business owners who feel a deep sense of failure after they’ve had an unsuccessful launch or a slow phase in their business. As painful as it can be, failure can be celebrated when you remember that you have to be trying to accomplish something in order to feel like you’ve failed.
Would you rather be the kind of person who sits idly, trying nothing new, nothing hard, nothing worthy? No. Not you, Corey Feldman, and not the business owners I meet on the regular. Failure is not bad! It’s a sign that you’re pushing your own boundaries. #failhard
You’re in the arena. Your face is dusty and sweaty. — That’s admirable.
I hope you take a moment to lick your wounds, to shake it off, and then get back to putting yourself out there. Regardless of whether or not your music is a hit, you’re striving, and that is an inspiration.
Corey, keep going! The world needs more people like you who are willing to put themselves out there, brave souls who have something to share even though they may be received unfavorably. Thank you for showing us how it’s done.
Much love & respect,
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